My Childhood Still Haunts Me
My Childhood Still Haunts Me – How Do I Heal from Emotional Wounds That Never Received Closure?
Published: October 29, 2025
The Email
I am a 36-year-old man, but parts of me still feel like a hurt child. I grew up in an environment where I was constantly criticized, compared, and made to feel unworthy. I was never good enough in the eyes of my parents. There was shouting, emotional neglect, and at times, complete silence when I needed comfort. Even today, when someone raises their voice or rejects me, I feel that same childhood fear. I struggle with self-esteem, relationships, and decision-making. I realize I am still living in the shadow of my past. How do I heal from a childhood that still hurts me as an adult?
– A Grown Adult with a Wounded Inner Child
Understanding the Impact of Childhood Trauma
Childhood experiences shape how we see ourselves and the world.
If a child is not given love, safety, and emotional validation, they grow into an adult who constantly questions their worth.
Your present struggles are not character flaws – they are emotional wounds calling for healing.
Signs Your Inner Child Is Still Hurting
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Overreaction to criticism or conflict
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People-pleasing or fear of abandonment
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Difficulty trusting others
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Constant need for validation
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Emotional numbness or over-empathy
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Anxiety rooted in fear of being unloved or unsafe
You are not weak. You were emotionally wounded at an age when you had no power to protect yourself.
The Truth
The child in you doesn’t want to be healed by time. He/she wants to be acknowledged and loved by you.
Healing childhood trauma means reconnecting with your inner child, not ignoring him/her.
Steps to Heal Emotional Trauma from Childhood
Step 1 – Acknowledge the Trauma Without Shame
Say:
“What I experienced was real. What I felt was valid. It was not my fault.”
Shame keeps trauma alive. Acceptance begins healing.
Step 2 – Talk to Your Inner Child
Visualize your younger self standing in front of you.
Say:
“You didn’t deserve the pain you went through. I am here now. I will protect you, love you, and give you what you were denied.”
This transforms emotional abandonment into emotional safety.
Step 3 – Release the Belief That You Were the Problem
Children often internalize trauma as:
“Something must be wrong with me.”
Replace that belief with truth:
“Something was wrong around me—not within me.”
Step 4 – Break the Emotional Pattern
If you grew up in chaos, you might unconsciously seek chaos as an adult.
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Recognize toxic patterns
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Stop repeating behaviors that mirror your past
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Choose healing over habit
Step 5 – Rebuild Your Identity
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Engage in creative expression
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Practice self-compassion daily
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Surround yourself with emotionally safe people
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Seek counseling or therapy (inner child healing, regression, or spiritual therapy)
Healing is not about erasing the past, but freeing yourself from its control.
Spiritual Insight
God / The Universe saw your pain, even when no one else did.
That child was never alone. The fact that you survived is proof that you were held by unseen hands.
That child was never alone. The fact that you survived is proof that you were held by unseen hands.
Your journey is not about reliving the pain—it is about rising from it to become a healer of others or yourself.
Healing Affirmations
“My past shaped me, but it no longer controls me.”
“I choose to give myself the love I never received.”
“My inner child is safe with me. I am healing every day.”
“I choose to give myself the love I never received.”
“My inner child is safe with me. I am healing every day.”
Final Empowerment Message
You are not broken. You are a survivor of what was meant to break you.
The hurt child in you is not a burden — he/she is your path to power, compassion, and emotional freedom.
The hurt child in you is not a burden — he/she is your path to power, compassion, and emotional freedom.
When you heal your inner child, you do not just heal yourself —
you heal generations of unspoken pain.
you heal generations of unspoken pain.
Tags: Help for Heart, Inner Child Healing, Childhood Trauma, Emotional Recovery, Mental Health
If You Are Carrying Pain from Your Past
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Disclaimer
This content offers emotional insight. Deeply rooted trauma may require professional therapy, trauma-informed care, or spiritual counselling.
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