I Love Him More Than He Loves Me
I Love Him More Than He Loves Me – Why My Heart Keeps Holding On to Someone Who Barely Tries
A Heart Waiting for Effort That Never Comes
Published: November 14, 2025
The Email
I am a 29-year-old woman. I love him deeply, truly, honestly. But I feel like I am the only one trying. I text first. I care more. I cry more. I wait more. He only shows love when he wants something. When I need him, he is distant and cold.
People tell me to leave.
People say, “You deserve better.”
But my heart refuses to listen.
People say, “You deserve better.”
But my heart refuses to listen.
Why do I stay with someone who gives me half-love?
Why do I keep fighting for someone who doesn’t fight for me?
— A Heart Carrying More Than Its Share
Why do I keep fighting for someone who doesn’t fight for me?
— A Heart Carrying More Than Its Share
Why Loving Someone More Hurts So Deeply
You are not foolish.
You are not blind.
You are not blind.
You are simply loving with your whole heart —
and hoping he will someday love you the same.
and hoping he will someday love you the same.
But this is why you remain stuck:
1. You’re loving his potential, not his reality
You see the man he could be,
not the man he is right now.
not the man he is right now.
2. You’re afraid you won’t find this connection again
Your fear makes a temporary person look permanent.
3. You fear losing him more than losing yourself
Your heart prioritizes him over your own peace.
4. You think unconditional love means unlimited tolerance
But love without boundaries becomes self-destruction.
The Silent Pain of One-Sided Love
You Over-Give… and He Gets Comfortable
When you love too much,
the other person stops trying.
the other person stops trying.
You Accept Less… and Call It Patience
You start believing
“Maybe this is all I deserve.”
“Maybe this is all I deserve.”
Your Heart Waits… While His Heart Wanders
You build dreams around someone
who doesn’t even show up consistently.
who doesn’t even show up consistently.
You Think His Lack of Effort Means You Need to Try Harder
But love is not proven by how much you endure.
The Harsh Truth You Avoid
If someone truly loves you,
you will never have to beg for:
you will never have to beg for:
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time
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effort
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loyalty
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respect
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communication
Effort is the language of real love.
If he wanted to, he would.
If he cared, you would feel it.
If you mattered, you wouldn’t be confused.
How to Stop Loving Someone More Than They Love You
If he wanted to, he would.
If he cared, you would feel it.
If you mattered, you wouldn’t be confused.
How to Stop Loving Someone More Than They Love You
Step 1 — Accept That Love Alone Cannot Save a Relationship
You cannot build a future
with someone who only gives love
when it is convenient.
Step 2 — Stop Pouring Into a Cup That Never Fills Yours
with someone who only gives love
when it is convenient.
Step 2 — Stop Pouring Into a Cup That Never Fills Yours
Love should be mutual.
Not one-sided sacrifice.
Not one-sided sacrifice.
Pull back.
Observe.
Watch what happens when you stop trying.
Observe.
Watch what happens when you stop trying.
His effort — or the lack of it —
will answer everything.
Step 3 — Reconnect With Yourself
will answer everything.
Step 3 — Reconnect With Yourself
You’ve spent so long loving him
that you forgot to love yourself.
that you forgot to love yourself.
Bring back the old you —
the one who laughed freely,
dreamed loudly,
and lived confidently.
the one who laughed freely,
dreamed loudly,
and lived confidently.
You existed before him.
You will exist after him.
Step 4 — Set Emotional Boundaries
You will exist after him.
Step 4 — Set Emotional Boundaries
Say clearly:
“I cannot keep giving love without receiving effort.”
Love demands balance.
Not burnout.
Not burnout.
Step 5 — Be Willing to Walk Away
This is the strongest form of love:
Loving yourself enough to choose peace over pain.
Staying does not prove loyalty.
Leaving does not prove weakness.
It proves growth.
Leaving does not prove weakness.
It proves growth.
Spiritual Insight
Sometimes, God allows unbalanced love
so you learn this truth:
so you learn this truth:
“The person meant for you will never make you beg for effort.”
You are not being punished.
You are being prepared
for someone who matches your heart.
You are being prepared
for someone who matches your heart.
Affirmations for a Healing Heart
Repeat daily:
I deserve the same love I give.
My heart is worthy of effort and consistency.
I will no longer chase someone who is not choosing me.
My heart is worthy of effort and consistency.
I will no longer chase someone who is not choosing me.
I choose myself without guilt.
Final Message of Strength
Loving more is not your weakness —
loving wrong is.
loving wrong is.
A relationship should not feel like
you’re carrying the weight alone.
you’re carrying the weight alone.
The right person will make you feel:
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valued
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safe
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respected
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chosen
And until that person arrives,
choose peace,
choose healing,
choose yourself.
choose peace,
choose healing,
choose yourself.
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Tags: Help for Heart, One-Sided Love, Emotional Healing, Toxic Relationships, Heartbreak Recovery
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